What Japanese Women Want in Middle-Aged Men
“While it is commonly believed that “uncles” (middle-aged men) are not popular with women, there are certainly those who are. What makes some middle-aged men popular while others are not, even though they are both referred to as “uncle”?
As part of a social survey based on a questionnaire conducted by the matchmaking service “SugarDaddy,” we will release the results of a survey on women’s attitudes toward love. In the questionnaire, when asked about their attitudes towards love, 33.3% of women in their 20s and 30s answered “yes” to the question, “Would you like to date a man ten or more years older than you?” So what do young women seek in “uncles”?
Willingness to date a Japanese man who is ten or more years older: 33.3%
Questionnaire survey about love.Targeting women in their 20s and 30s, about the preferences regarding the “occupation” and “age” of men who are romantic partners
Survey period: Thursday, March 2, 2023, to Thursday, March 16, 2023
Survey method: Internet survey using “Crowdworks.”
Eligible people: regardless of the place of residence (Japan/overseas)
Number of collected samples: 300
Opinions of Japanese women respondents
Opinion of women who answered Yes
“Opinions of female respondents who answered that they are willing to date a man who is ten or more years older include:
“If he has lived ten years longer than me, they would likely have more life experience and emotional maturity” (the 20s).
“If they are that much older, they would probably spoil me a lot. Even if they become dependent on me; it would make me like them more due to the age gap” (the 30s).
“I think they would be more accommodating than men my age. Also, they are financially stable” (the 20s).
“I might feel their mature charm. They would likely give me various advice when I’m in trouble” (the 30s).
Many Japanese women who answered that they see men ten or older as romantic interests were attracted to their adult composure and maturity. Other opinions included financial stability.”
Opinion of women who answered No
On the other hand, women who answered that they do not consider men ten or more years older than themselves as romantic partners had opinions such as
“It is difficult to imagine a future such as having children if we were to get married (the 30s),”
“Different generations have different topics and values so that I would be conscious of it (the 20s),”
“An unconscious protective relationship like a superior-subordinate relationship may arise (the 30s),” and “I wonder if there is some problem that they are not interested in people of their age (20s).”
On the other hand, most Japanese women who responded that they do not consider men ten or more years older than them as potential romantic partners cited “differences in values due to generational gaps.”
Overall, the “inner qualities” are highly valued as the criteria for being an attractive older man. However, for middle-aged men who want to be attractive to younger women, it may be worth considering cultivating a sense of maturity and composure as an adult.